It seems like, if one is not sure of the eye color of an actor/character, one would therefore avoid using it. Right? Sigh. I never mention eye color when I write because half the time, I can't even tell you the eye color of people I see every day.

I've read a number of xovers with SPN/buffyverse that do some handwaves to deal with the differing rules. But as for the Connor involvement, I think it's the Stanford thing that makes it so alluring and yet, well, as noted, they don't really care much about Connor, per se. But I do! Which is probably the bigger reason I can't read them, I have spent way more time than most writers thinking about these things. I like him!

And hey, no guilt! It's not like the wonderful stories you've written have been taken down and I can't reread them. We write what we write. :)