Yes, the thing I was trying to say but in much smarter words. Thank you!

(And I didn't mean to suggest there's nothing to 'the tone argument' discussion -- especially as I think it was originally identified as problematic when used by privileged people who could not accept their own statements being criticized, against less privileged people. Just that I'm wary of it because it seems to have trickled down, as you say, to "toxic silencing and group think.")